Human Design and Parenting

A Mother's Journey to Discovery

As a mother of two, Human Design and life coach, my life is a dynamic blend of chaos and order. Sometimes, it feels like a circus, doesn't it? Balancing work, children, personal interests, and somehow trying to catch a moment of peace. But amidst all the craziness, there's a secret sauce that has transformed my parenting experience: Human Design.

So, What is Human Design?

Human Design is a unique system that combines elements of astrology, the I Ching, Kabbalah, Hindu-Brahmin chakra model, quantum physics, and genetics to create a 'design' or blueprint of how individuals are wired.

It offers insights into our personalities, strengths, challenges, and how we interact with the world around us. Think of it as a manual to understanding our unique identities. And imagine how valuable that could be when raising little individuals, each with their own quirks, joys, and challenges.

The Value of Human Design for Parents

With my two little rascals, there were moments I questioned my sanity. Why does my older child respond well to structure, while the younger one seems to thrive amidst spontaneity? How is it that the same approach, the same words, could result in such different outcomes?

That's when I turned to Human Design, and oh, what a world it opened up! Understanding my children's unique designs offered a fresh perspective on why they are the way they are.

It made me realize that every child is unique and requires a personalized approach to nurture their individuality. Their designs shed light on how they process information, make decisions, and interact with the world - incredibly valuable insights for a parent, wouldn't you agree?

As parents, we all aspire to provide our children with the best. We want them to flourish and become the best versions of themselves. Human Design offers us a roadmap to understanding our children and ourselves at a profound level.

This journey of understanding Human Design is a transformative one, and I'm excited to share it with you. Stick around as we delve deeper into this fascinating world, and explore how it can make our parenting journey a little less chaotic, and a lot more enriching.

The Elements of Human Design

Human Design consists of several components, each providing a unique insight into our personality and behavior. It might feel a bit like piecing together a jigsaw puzzle, but trust me, the final picture is worth it.


There are four main types in Human Design: Manifestors, Generators (including Manifesting Generators), Projectors, and Reflectors. These types give us a fundamental understanding of our life purpose, and how we interact with the world. Have you ever noticed how your kids just seem to operate differently, right from the get-go? That's their Type at play!


The nine centers in a Human Design chart correspond to significant areas of our lives, such as communication, emotions, or willpower. A center can be defined (colored in) or undefined (white). Defined centers represent consistent energy or traits within us, while undefined centers are where we are open to influence. Imagine understanding why your little one might absorb or amplify emotions from others - that's the wisdom of Centers.


Authorities in Human Design guide us in making decisions that are right for us. They range from emotional authority to ego authority, each having its own unique guidance system. Imagine realizing that your child needs a full day to make a decision rather than being rushed - what a difference it could make to their confidence!


Your profile in Human Design is like your role in life's play. It provides insight into your personality, purpose, and perspective. It's like knowing whether your child is more of a backstage supporter or a spotlight-loving lead actor.

Channels and Gates

Channels and Gates show the specifics of our design. They are the pathways of energy flow in our design. They highlight our strengths, talents, and potential areas of growth.

Putting It All Together

Each of these elements comes together to form a unique blueprint, a guide to understanding how we are individually designed to interact with the world. My children, for example, couldn't be more different. My eldest is a Manifesting Generator, constantly buzzing with energy and juggling multiple interests at once. Meanwhile, my youngest is a Projector, needing more time to rest and having a knack for guiding others.

Applying Human Design to understand these differences has been nothing short of a revelation. It's given me a new lens to understand their needs, behaviors, and most importantly, how I can guide them without dampening their spirit.

How Human Design Can Benefit Parents: A Personal Perspective

Fostering Individuality

Every child is unique, brimming with their own potential, strengths, and yes, quirks. Isn't it beautiful how diverse our little ones can be? My two bundles of joy couldn't be more different. While one thrives on a routine, the other seeks out adventure and spontaneity.

Before I discovered Human Design, this puzzled me. Why were they so different despite having the same upbringing? When I looked at their Human Design charts, the pieces fell into place.

My older child is a Manifesting Generator, while the younger one is a Projector. One thrives on constant engagement and needs to burn off energy, while the other needs more downtime and operates best when invited into activities.

With these insights, I was able to appreciate their individuality and guide them accordingly, rather than trying to fit them into the same mold. Can you imagine the relief and freedom your children might feel when they are understood and appreciated for who they are?

Improving Communication

Communication is key in any relationship, especially between a parent and a child. But sometimes, it's like we're speaking different languages, isn't it? That's where understanding your child's Human Design comes in.

For example, my older child has a defined Throat Center, indicating a consistent need to express himself. On the other hand, my younger child has an undefined Throat Center, making her more sensitive to the communication styles of those around her. This understanding transformed how I communicate with each of them, and it's made a world of difference.

Perhaps you've noticed similar patterns in your children? Aren't you curious to see what their Human Design can reveal about how best to communicate with them?

The Power of Understanding

Understanding your child's Human Design is like being handed a guidebook tailored to your child. It offers insight into their needs, their strengths, their potential challenges, and how they interact with the world. It fosters empathy, patience, and most importantly, effective guidance tailored to your child.

Human Design in Action: Real-Life Experiences

Navigating parenthood is not an easy task, but with tools like Human Design, we can make it a more enriching and understanding journey. After all, isn't that what we all strive for as parents?

Sarah and Her Energetic Manifesting Generator

Sarah, a mother of a vivacious 7-year-old, always struggled to understand her daughter's relentless energy. "I was at my wit's end," Sarah confessed. "I just couldn't keep up with her energy. I started feeling like I was failing as a mother."

That was until Sarah discovered Human Design and found out her daughter was a Manifesting Generator, a Type known for its bustling energy and multitasking abilities. "Understanding her Type was like someone had finally turned on the light," she shared. "I learned to channel her energy into creative pursuits, and it's made a world of difference. Now, I'm not trying to restrict her; instead, I'm helping her harness her energy productively. It's improved our relationship, and I've seen a remarkable change in her behavior."

Isn't it amazing what a little understanding can do?

Mike and His Projector Son

Mike, a single father, was perplexed by his 10-year-old son's need for more downtime than his peers. "He'd come home from school and just want to rest, while other kids were out playing," Mike recalls. "I worried he was being antisocial or had a lack of ambition."

After a friend introduced him to Human Design, Mike discovered that his son was a Projector. Unlike the other Types, Projectors need more rest to rejuvenate their energy. "It was like a 'Eureka!' moment," Mike said. "I started respecting his need for quiet time, and I noticed how much happier and healthier he seemed. Instead of pushing him to be like other kids, I started celebrating him for who he was."

These stories, along with my personal experience with my own children, truly illustrate the tangible benefits of understanding our children through the lens of Human Design. It allows us to appreciate their unique identities, communicate effectively, and guide them in a way that aligns with their inherent nature.

Understanding Your Own Human Design: A Key to Better Parenting

As a mother of two, I've seen the transformative power of Human Design not only in understanding my children, but also in understanding myself. Let's delve into why understanding our own Human Design can be a game-changer in our parenting journey.

The Importance of Self-Understanding

Before we dive into the benefits, let's take a moment to appreciate the importance of understanding ourselves. As parents, we often put our children's needs above our own, forgetting that we can only give our best when we understand and take care of ourselves first.

With Human Design, we get a detailed 'blueprint' of our unique traits, strengths, and challenges. And don't we all want to be the best versions of ourselves for our children? Knowing our own design allows us to understand how we operate, make decisions, and interact with others, all of which directly influence our parenting style.

An Insight into Communication Styles

Have you ever noticed that your way of communicating might be different from your partner's or your friends'? As a Manifestor with a defined Throat Center, I noticed that I'm usually the one initiating conversations and making decisions. However, my partner, who is a Projector with an undefined Throat Center, often waits for the right moment to express himself. Understanding these nuances in our communication styles helped us to navigate disagreements and misunderstandings much more effectively.

Can you imagine how this insight can improve not only your relationship with your partner but also with your children?

Better Decision Making

As parents, we make numerous decisions daily that impact our children's lives. Wouldn't it be helpful to understand how we're wired to make those decisions? For instance, as a Manifestor, I'm designed to inform others before initiating actions. This realization has made me more aware of including my children in decision-making processes, promoting a sense of respect and collaboration in our family.

Understanding your own Human Design can also guide you through life's challenges. Are you dealing with work stress, relationship issues, or self-doubt? Your Human Design can provide valuable insights into your inherent strengths and potential areas of growth, helping you navigate these hurdles with more resilience and wisdom.

Family in Harmony with Human Design

The Power of Empathy

Understanding each other's Human Design breeds empathy. For example, knowing my eldest child is a Manifesting Generator, I understand why he's constantly multitasking and following his interests. Similarly, being aware that my youngest is a Projector, I appreciate why she needs more time to rest and recuperate.

What about your family? Have you noticed how this understanding breeds empathy, and can diffuse potential conflicts or misunderstandings?

Building Effective Communication

Effective communication is the cornerstone of any relationship. By understanding each other's communication style through Human Design, we can adapt and improve the way we express ourselves. I've found this to be particularly helpful when navigating those tricky teenage years!

Individual Growth

Understanding our Human Design doesn't mean we're confining ourselves or our children to a box. Quite the opposite! It provides a platform for understanding and celebrating our uniqueness. It fosters individual growth and self-discovery, ultimately leading to a harmonious family dynamic.

Can you envision the collective harmony that could arise when each member of your family feels seen, understood, and celebrated for who they are?

A Personal Experience

From my personal experience, understanding our Human Designs has deepened our bonds and cultivated an environment of mutual respect. I've seen my children grow in confidence and self-assuredness because they feel understood and appreciated for who they are.

Wrapping Up: The Transformative Power of Human Design for Parents

Throughout this series, we've explored how Human Design can illuminate the unique essence of our children, providing invaluable insights into their needs, strengths, and potential areas of growth. Remember Sarah and Mike, who were able to transform their parenting approaches by understanding their children's unique designs? Can you imagine the potential changes you could see in your own family ?

We also looked into how understanding our own Human Design can enhance our self-awareness and influence our parenting style. What might you discover about your own approach to parenting by understanding your design?

A New Perspective on Family

By understanding each family member's unique Human Design, we've seen how a harmonious family dynamic can be cultivated—one where each member feels seen, understood, and appreciated for who they are. Isn't it beautiful how such understanding can foster empathy, improve communication, and celebrate individuality?

Starting Your Own Journey

Lastly, we discussed practical steps to start your journey into Human Design. The path to understanding might be overwhelming at first, but remember, it's a journey of self-discovery and growth. It's about seeing the unique and intricate design of who we are and who our children are. And trust me, it's a journey well worth taking.

So, here we are at the end of our series. But let me remind you, this is not the end—it's just the beginning of your journey into Human Design. As we wrap up, I hope you feel inspired, curious, and excited to explore what Human Design can bring to your life and your family.

In the words of the great philosopher Socrates, "Know thyself." And what better way to know yourself and your loved ones than through the lens of Human Design? Here's to you and your family's journey into understanding, acceptance, and love.